This is important to hear. You can do something, at a minimum by knowing and understanding that your actions and words have meaning beyond your fingers and teeth. In a post-spiritual world all you have is what you hold. There are no rules but the ones you make. Try to understand this and build your world with love and make egosyntonic choices with regard for growth and respect for fear. Don’t ignore fear, you can’t. Push yourself to be better, allow your children to see your struggle. Ask your children to be better, and respect their fear.